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How to Raise Non-Entitled Children

When your kids are young, oftentimes they tend to believe that everything should be handed out to them. 

In today’s world, many things are accessible to your children right at their fingertips, and having parents who do everything for them doesn’t necessarily help. However, this isn’t good for their future success in the world of business and legacy building. 

Why is it important for you to have non-entitled children?

This is a question that many parents find themselves pondering when their kids start to get older and specifically learn about the concept of money. When we do too much for our kids or allow them to have everything they need immediately, we’re actually robbing them of developing their own skills and practice necessary to be competent when they’re on their own.  

How do I teach my kids that money should be earned, and not handed out?

In the video above, Gaye Christiansen explains how she became accustomed to working hard growing up on a dairy farm. And while it felt “tough”, she really valued the work ethic it instilled in her as a child:

“You know, it was, it was tough. But now that I look back, I am so grateful that we had that opportunity because it taught me that if you need something, you can figure out a way to get it, you can go work a little harder, you can go find a job, you can, you know, go sell, pixie sticks, or whatever it is.”

It turned her and her siblings into productive people who would go out into the world and create a life for themselves. Not only did it influence productivity, but it also left them the lesson on being resilient, no matter what life throws their way. 

That’s what we want for our children isn’t it?

When it comes to raising children, it’s like a continuous cycle; we are the result of how we are raised, and we continue to pass these values to our children. 

We see it more and more in our society today, where entitled children don’t think they should have to work for the privilege to acquire what they want or need — they often ask themselves “why should I work if I can get everything handed to me?” 

How would you feel if you found out your children were asking themselves that same question?

As Gaye Christiansen points out:

“Life isn’t that way, it doesn’t just get handed to you.”

As parents, it’s our responsibility to teach our kids that as they get older, Mom is not always going to be there to do laundry, or Dad is not going to always be there to make dinner. It’s so important that they understand what they need to do to progress their life forward. These things are not going to be done for them.

They need to learn independence and the meaning of “hard work pays off”. 

To start practicing the values of raising non-entitled children, here are some simple tips you can use to instill the values of humility, appreciation, unassuming children to be proud of:

1. Teach your children to do chores around the house – menial tasks around the house will show your kids that they need to earn their keep in the household.

2. Set up a savings account for each child and have them put away money every month – this teaches them the value of money when they’re young.

3. Encourage your kids to give their old clothes, toys, or other items that are no longer being used to charity instead of throwing them out – sharing is caring! If they’re no longer using it, another family may find value in it. 

4. Give your children an allowance for doing well in school – this incentivizes them to stay motivated and focused with positive reinforcement.

5. Let your kids know that they can’t always get what they want – if you say “no” once in a while, it’s not the end of the world – there’s a difference between wants and needs. If you say “yes” to everything, this is the number one ingredient for entitled children.

6. Praise your children when they’ve done something good without expecting anything in return – this will instill them to do good deeds unconsciously. Before you know it they’ll be doing good deeds, right, front and center.

Now, we know it’s easier said than done. Raising kids who are non-entitled is blatantly TOUGH. 

However, think about it this way: raising non-entitled kids is more about teaching them that life isn’t always fair and there will be setbacks, but they don’t have to let it define them or how they interact with others in the world. 

If you want some tips on raising non-entitled kids, this article has a few good ideas for starting conversations around these topics at home with your children. What do you think? Do any of these sound like something you’ve done before in order to raise empowered and independent children? Comment below!

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